Does your partner support you?
I know in my life support is a huge part of my success, if it wasn't for Darrin always being there for me I don't think I could do it. Just wondering how supportive your partners are with your decision to keep fit and how they do or don't support you. Darrin supports me 100% emotionally and 100% in my dieting and training
LA
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In the beginning it was like pulling teeth with my man...but with some time, patience , and a few lessons learned he is my biggest fan now Takes a unique individual to help, console and understand anyone dieting!
he is now excited to help with tan, buying me stuff for the show and making arrangements for hotels!!!!!! YES girls i have him whipped...hehehhe just playing.
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If you can get through dieting for a competition together--you can survive anything ! I'm glad to hear- Christine, that your other half is supportive now!! Its so important just to have someone whom you can just be with and they know what you are trying to acheive and how hard you've worked.
I have friends, that are actually getting married 2 days before the Mississauga show and she's competing in the woman's bodybuilding!!! They are crazy but totally in love!! Congrats to Glen and Cindy! Talk about supporting one another, these two are totally on the same page.
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I am very fortunate having health and fitness nut for my BF It makes life so much easier if you both have the same passions and visions. We eat the same food (I do the cooking-so he has to LOL) no seriously I never met the guy who actually loves my contest food-plain and boring. BTW he is not bodybuilder,he is Yoga nut. We do 90% of physical activities together,yoga,beach volley,gym, bike rides and walks in woods...We keep each other on the toes.If one feels like slacking the other will pull him/her up and otherwise
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Thats soo great to hear!! If your are both passionate life just falls together!! Does he have a lot of guys that are into yoga? I don't know too many but I've just recently heard one of my friends husband is doing yoga.
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Hmmm that is interesting question LA about guys and yoga. We just discussed it yesterday. There are a few guys out there,but generally people perception about yoga is that is is girlie stuff and too hippie perhaps . There was a great article about it...what happened was that health centres could not get many guys to get involved in yoga classes...so they re-named it like Body Balance and Strenght and flexibility clas etc..you get the picture.Out of blue many guys started to flow into classes an drave about the workout...how hard it is and what good workout they got.I think it is similar with bodybuilding. If you mention you are bodybuilder people kind off frown at you,but if you say that you are figure and bodyshaper they say Ahhhh that is interesting.It is just the perception and how media portraits the given sport,look,book etc...
BTW we met while I came to NZ to play Pro Beach Volleyball. My BF used to be one of the top players in NZ before he retired
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I was thinking about taking up some type of yoga to improve my flexibility..I'm sooooo stiff. My hips are almost immobile. I create a new thread and see maybe if you have some recommedations or cool moves....ok...going to create the yoga topic.......
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Primo girl...it is a deal BTW I have only been doing yoga for two years so I am not advanced,but I am reaping the benefits big time. Better recovery,injury rehab...more flexible and faster on the court and much calmer LOL. I am very impatient and do everything like there is a fire behind my butt Yoga makes me slow down a bit and think before I leap
And do not even talk about the hips...I am stiff as a plank!!!But working on it patiently
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My hubby is not very supportive of girls with muscles
He also isn't happy with me being interested in bodybuilding, I think it is due to the fact that i have always been over weight and i guess that was safe for him!
But now i live at the gym i have friends and he also notices men looking at me and i think he feels threated by all of my changes and worried that if he doesn't change i wont want him anymore?? Has anyone else had to deal with this and how??
I love my hubby but i am finding this hard to cope with aspecially since i decided to get into building muscle!!
Em
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Hey girl, sorry to hear that But on the other hand let me assure you that this is very common scenario.As you said and I agree...he feels threatened. There are two types of guys..one will join in and reap the benefits of healthy lifestyle and other one is grouchy type who won't budge and will make the other person's life difficult I always believe that honesty and sincere comunication is the key for any relationship.Tell him how much healthier and great you feel,how good it is for your confidence.....or simply that you really love what you are doing and how much it would mean to you if he supported you. In relationships it is about compromise,you give a little and take a little-both side..it is WIN/WIN situation.
Hope he comes to his senses and joins you on the journey towards the better life
This unfortunately is very common among guys who cant handle their partners attracting attention Hopefully when he realizes this is your passion his views will change but until then try to be strong and never let your goals disappear--at times it will be tough, its nice for the one you love to be your biggest support but at certain times its your friends that you have to depend for those words of encouragement. He will come around, it'll just take some time for him to get to know the NEW you Always remember to still make time for your relationship and hopefully over time he'll begin to understand. In the meantime, WE are all HERE for ya!! You are an amazing gal everytihing will get better in time.
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Thankyou Girls,
Its nice to know that it wont last forever and that with time things will change
Right now i feel that i have done all that i can to reassure him and communicate my feelings about what i am doing so now it is his turn to start making an effort and he started today by joining me at my gym (he goes to an all male gym) and he was rather amazed to see me strut my stuff so i do think with time he will understand and see what i am working for and then hopefully support me
Lastnight was the first night that he decided to have takeaway and didnt make me feel guilty for saying no so perhaps it is his time to change
I am going to my first comp in July (As a spectator) i dont think he will come but he isn't stopping me from going so he half approves LOL
Em
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Great to hear that he is softening up One tiny step at the time...Just like with contest preparation..nice and slow You go girl!!!
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Without forums and bloggers and of course wonderfull people like you i don't think i would have hung on like i have
The way i am trying to get around hubby is by slowly building muscle so that he can slowly get used to it, Hopefully he will like the finished me
Em
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Cheers Em You might be suprized how much he will like the finished package LOL. You will have to keep him at arms lenght otherwise he will wear you out... and no energy will be left for gym workouts...but then that is where some strong cuppa of Java could help
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Great advice Negativity can be sooo draining and you don't need that. I'm sure he will loooove the finished package but as long as YOU do, thats all that matters
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LA -- you are so right about negativity being draining!!! My ex- husband was SO NEGATIVE. But, that's not for this thread!!
Keep up the great work Em! Do this for you!!!
Me, I'm single and now that I'm getting more and more into a healthier lifestyle, I'm noticing not a lot of other people around me are -- here anyway!!
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Ange, You have hit the nail on the head so to speak
Where i am there isn't much call for healthy lifestyles!
There is three gyms n my area, One is known as the meat head gym were i have the pleasure of working out LOL then there is the YMCA where it's a must to have makeup on and perfect hair and nails ect plus dont forget the matching outfit LOL and break a sweat and you will be frown upon then lastly there is fernword and most of the old women go there as its a women only gym and they don't even own free weights there
So not much to choose from!
And my family is all overweight and eat "dirty" food so there is so much to battle in a day, then when i throw hubby in the mix
But i am strong, positive and i am winning the battle of the buldge one day at a time i was 130kg i am now 85kg so i am very happy with that
I took some progress pics lastnight and i can see that i have toned up and shrunk alittle hehe its nice to see the hard work paying off i did feel in in my clothes but to actually see it was wow
I am really learning to stand on my own and fight the negatives, i think thats why hubby is worried as for right now he is a negative! But we can work on that
Em
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Hey Em -- just keep the communication going between you and your hubby. And stay as positive as you can!
What a rush to see results though, eh??
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Thanks ange,
We can get through it, it's not a huge issue.... More frustrating because i would like his support, but he will come round
I have been taking pic's here and there and i decided to a four week update and WOW it was great to see as i have really amped it up at the gym and changed my workout style and it feels great
Althought on leg day i felt i needed a wheelbarrow to cart me off to the car LOL
It makes life so much easier if you both have the same passions and visions. We eat the same food (I do the cooking-so he has to LOL) no seriously I never met the guy who actually loves my contest food-plain and boring. BTW he is not bodybuilder,he is Yoga nut. We do 90% of physical activities together,yoga,beach volley,gym, bike rides and walks in woods...We keep each other on the toes.If one feels like slacking the other will pull him/her up and otherwise
. There was a great article about it...what happened was that health centres could not get many guys to get involved in yoga classes...so they re-named it like Body Balance and Strenght and flexibility clas etc..you get the picture.Out of blue many guys started to flow into classes an drave about the workout...how hard it is and what good workout they got.I think it is similar with bodybuilding. If you mention you are bodybuilder people kind off frown at you,but if you say that you are figure and bodyshaper they say Ahhhh that is interesting.It is just the perception and how media portraits the given sport,look,book etc...
Yoga makes me slow down a bit and think before I leap
But on the other hand let me assure you that this is very common scenario.As you said and I agree...he feels threatened. There are two types of guys..one will join in and reap the benefits of healthy lifestyle and other one is grouchy type who won't budge and will make the other person's life difficult
I always believe that honesty and sincere comunication is the key for any relationship.Tell him how much healthier and great you feel,how good it is for your confidence.....or simply that you really love what you are doing and how much it would mean to you if he supported you. In relationships it is about compromise,you give a little and take a little-both side..it is WIN/WIN situation.
so perhaps it is his time to change
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